"Hello There" My name is Chris. I'm 53 as I write this in October of 2025, and I'm a gamer, a golfer, and a guy who's been (and continues to be) on a serious health journey. After losing and then gaining over 190 pounds and facing significant cardiac events, I thought I was doing everything right by following a 'keto' diet. I was wrong. I discovered I was eating 'dirty keto'—my 'health foods' were full of inflammatory oils, hidden starches, and artificial sweeteners that were working against me. 'The Path is Too Deep' is my personal blog about ditching the marketing and discovering the power of a Clean, Anti-Inflammatory, Whole-Food Ketogenic Lifestyle. I'll be sharing what I've learned about reading labels, my ongoing journey with weight loss, my strategies for managing mental health (ADHD/dysthymia), and my thoughts on gaming, golf, and technology. It's my personal rulebook for taking back control. "Not all those...
For a long time, the default setting in my interpersonal dynamics was to operate as the resident mechanic. If there was an emotional crisis, a logistical hurdle, or a moment of friction, my immediate biological and psychological response was to deploy a solution. It is a common behavioral architecture, often referred to as being a " Fixer ." On the surface, it looks like extreme empathy or profound care. In reality, it is often a subconscious defense mechanism - a way of establishing value through utility rather than vulnerability. Today, we are unpacking the psychological architecture of the "Utility Trap," analyzing the critical difference between being needed and being wanted, and exploring how to transition into a space of authentic connection. The Illusion of Transactional Utility When you build your identity around solving problems for others, you are engaging in transactional utility. You are inadvertently establishing a dynamic where your worth is inextricab...