The Path is Too Deep

For almost fifty years, I walked into every relationship carrying a toolbox and wearing a cape. I didn't know I was doing it. It wasn't until I was in my 40s, sitting in a therapist's chair undergoing regression therapy, that I found the origin point. I recovered a memory of my mother receiving a phone call. I was a small child. I watched her drop into a chair and sob uncontrollably. The call was to tell her that her father had passed away. To a child, your mother is your world. Seeing her despondent was terrifying. I remember trying to rub her arm, trying to say it would be okay, trying to make the tears stop. But I couldn't. That moment burned a script into my psyche that I followed for decades: I must fix the broken. The Pattern From high school on, I was drawn to distress like a moth to a flame. I became the "safe guy," the listener, the shoulder to cry on to many. In my own life, I didn't date women who were happy; I dated women who were hurting. If t...

In the IT world, they have a concept called Data Decay . It refers to information that was accurate when it was entered but becomes slowly incorrect over time. If you don't scrub the database, you end up making decisions based on ghosts. In my current "Sprints," I have successfully dropped 35 lbs in the past three months . The Return on Investment (ROI) is excellent. But recently, the rate of return has slowed. This isn't a failure of willpower; it is a failure of mathematics. The macros that worked for a 350 pound man are, by definition, an "overeating" surplus for a 315 pound man. My body would be running on legacy information. Here is why (and when) you need to force a "system update". The Physics: Heating the Mansion vs. The Condo Your BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate) is the amount of energy your body burns just to keep the lights on (breathing, heart rate, cell repair). Think of your body like a house. At 350 lbs: I was heating a mansion. It requi...

In the "Clean Keto" world, Extra Virgin Olive Oil (EVOO) is a premium lubricant. It is the gold standard of healthy fats, revered for its anti-inflammatory properties and heart health benefits. But as someone who works in compliance and quality, I have to issue a critical recall notice: Most of the "Extra Virgin" oil in your pantry is likely a counterfeit, even if it says "100% extra virgin olive oil" on the label. The olive oil industry is currently facing a massive compliance failure. Much like the " Honey Laundering " schemes of the past, the "Liquid Gold" market is flooded with diluted, mislabeled, and fraudulent products. Today, we audit the bottle. The Specs: What is Real EVOO? True Extra Virgin Olive Oil is simple. It is the juice of the olive, extracted solely by mechanical pressure (crushing). The fact that is produced solely by mechanical means - crushing and pressing - without the use of heat, chemicals, or refining , is wh...

In the "Quality and Compliance" audit of the clean ketogenic diet, there is one massive user-experience gap: The lack of a delivery vehicle. We have solved the protein (steak) and the fuel (fats), but we lost the vessel. How do you eat a burger without a bun? How do you hold a BLT? Commercial "Keto Breads" are usually a chemical firestorm of modified wheat starch and gluten - essentially "Dirty Keto" in a bag. Enter the Chaffle (Cheese + Waffle). It sounds ridiculous. It sounds like something a college student invented at 3:00 AM. But from a chemistry perspective, it is a perfect bread replacement. The waffle iron creates surface area, allowing the cheese to crisp up (The Maillard Reaction ), providing the structural rigidity required to hold a sandwich. Here are the two Standard Operating Procedures (SOPs) I use. The Hardware Ideally, you need a Mini Waffle Maker (like the Dash Mini). Why? A full-size Belgian waffle maker creates a full-size Chaffle th...

In the fitness industry, the term "Stack" refers to the specific combination of supplements a person takes. Usually, this is sold as a shortcut to results. I have a different view. My supplements are not "Health." They are Gap Fillers . Ideally, I would get every micro-nutrient from my food. But the reality is that modern soil is depleted, and at 53, my absorption rates aren't what they were at 20. I treat my supplement routine as a "Gap Analysis." I only consume compounds that perform a specific job that my diet cannot fulfill. Here is a transparency report on my current "Stack" and the ROI (Return on Investment) of each. 1. The Traffic Controllers (Vitamin D3 + K2) Living in Canada, Vitamin D deficiency is standard operating procedure. But taking Vitamin D alone is a rookie mistake. The Job: Vitamin D3 helps your body absorb Calcium. The Gap: Without Vitamin K2 , that Calcium doesn't know where to go. It can end up in your arteries ...

 When I tell people I fast for 22 hours a day (OMAD - One Meal A Day), the usual reaction is concern. "Aren't you starving yourself?" I have to correct the terminology. Starvation is a state of extreme, prolonged, and severe deficiency in caloric energy intake. Fasting is the strategic absence of food to force the body to switch fuel sources. But the benefits go far beyond burning fat. The real magic - and the reason I don't have quite as much loose skin as a man who lost a significant amount of weight should - is a biological process called Autophagy . Literally translated from Greek, it means "Self-Eating." The "Busy Kitchen" Metaphor Imagine a busy restaurant kitchen. If the restaurant is open 24 hours a day (grazing/snacking), the staff is constantly cooking and serving. They never have time to deep clean the grease traps, repair the broken stove, or take out the trash. The kitchen eventually becomes filthy and inefficient. When you stop eati...

When most people hear "Blockchain," they think of Bitcoin , bored apes , and volatile stock charts. But as a Manager of Quality and Compliance, when I look at the Blockchain, I don't see money. I see the ultimate Audit Log. At its core, my job is about establishing the "Single Source of Truth." If a student says they took a course, I need verifiable proof. If a food label says "Organic," you need to trust the certifier. Blockchain eliminates the need for "Trust." It replaces trust with Verification . The Google Sheet Metaphor Imagine a shared spreadsheet, like Microsoft Excel or Google Sheets. Centralized (The Bank): The Bank owns the file. They can edit it, delete rows, or freeze your access. You have to trust them . Decentralized (The Blockchain): Imagine a spreadsheet that is duplicated across 10,000 computers instantly. The Rule: You can add a row (a transaction), but you can never delete or edit a row. The Security: To hack it, you...